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When you are in a relationship, it can be important that your family get along with your partner. It is impressive when our boyfriend or girlfriend can share with our family and spend time with the other people we care about. But And when the family gets into your relationship? What if my parents or other family members disapprove of my dating relationship?
This can be very hard. It could make you feel terrible and it would be unpleasant to share with your family and your partner at the same time. You may want to react defensively and may turn against your family in anger if they tell you that they do not approve of their partner. It may even happen that you ignore what they say and simply exclude them or keep your relationship a secret. Those are the most common first reactions, but you’d better think about this situation.
Do you want to keep your relationship a secret from your family? It may seem like the easiest solution, but remember: all healthy relationships are built on trust, respect, and communication, and this includes the family relationship. If you already have a relatively healthy relationship with your family members (in other words, you feel safe talking to them), you could start by finding out what their specific objections are to your partner.
Conversations with your family about your relationship can be difficult, but it is important to go little by littleor discussing the issue with your family members calmly and respectfully.
Ask them why they don’t like your partner for you.
Do you feel like my partner is controlling me? Don’t you like the way he talks to you? Do you think that my partner does not respect me? Maybe they can see some bad behavior from your partner that you do not see. Still not convinced?
Ask your friends what they think about your partner.
Do your friends have the same concerns as your family? If so, you should take some time to consider whether or not to stay in that relationship and try to look for warning signs.
If your family members can’t tell you the specific reason they don’t approve of your partner, or if they don’t like race, religion, sexual orientation, or appearance, then things get a little more complicated.
These factors are called prejudice, and they would have more to do with your family members than with your partner. How to handle this? Depending on what kind of relationship you have with your family, if you still live with them, and how safe you feel with them.
It is possible to make them understand with respect that although they are your family and you love them, you do not agree with them. You could try spending more time together so they can get to know your partner better.
If the relationship is causing too much trouble with your family, you might consider taking a step back. and building a friendship with your partner while working on understanding with your family members. The most important thing is that you do what is healthiest for you and you.or lifetime.
