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What does it mean to love yourself
If we look at the deeper meaning of what concerns loving ourselves we can do it by going to identify the key features which highlight this condition. How do you recognize someone who loves himself / herself and how can we get inspired by starting to do it too? Alternatively we can also use these characteristics as a measure of the value we are giving ourselves at the current time.
Practical advice
Wanting your own good
To love yourself means to all intents and purposes wanting your own good, pushing your life into one direction that is beneficial, combine actions that produce positive and productive effects. Thinking and visualizing oneself as actors and actresses of one’s own destiny allows us to take existence and become responsible for every action. Trying to do one’s own good also translates into fewer complaints, less pulling down, less taking responsibility, less guilt that are useless to others. In other words, you become serene as you try to at any time do your own good.
Observe yourself without judgment
To understand what one would like to achieve in life, one must first of all look at oneself, observe what you want to achieve and in what times, without anxiety. This brings together people who are good for us and pushes away those who do not help us progress. If we feel mostly lazy, let’s take this into account, but don’t let laziness get us down. If, on the other hand, we know we are hyperactive, we should find moments to rest, push us to do it even if we can’t stop. Observing one’s thoughts is not only the key to knowing each other but also to change those that do not help us grow.
Accept yourself
Once we understand its characteristics (however it is a progressive and always moving path), we may find some that we do not like and we should be able to accept them without judging them too much. For example, if we realize that we give in to anger easily, if we notice that shyness forces us, let’s accept it and try to understand in a serene way how and what we would like to change, always respecting the our nature.
Limit the value we place on the judgment of others
What others think it shouldn’t affect us too much, that is, it shouldn’t create hindering conditions for us. Sometimes putting into practice an attitude that starts only and exclusively from one’s own center becomes complex as the opinions of the people we love count and a lot. Think about the situation in which you fall in love with someone who is not immediately understood or liked by family or friends; surely, as much as you like this person, the opinions of family members or close friends matter. We must also remember that the opinions of others are moved by internal movements of their own, sometimes unconscious. Changes sometimes generate a surprise that people react to in their own ways. Also think about when choosing a new haircut; maybe not everyone will like them and there will be different opinions, but the cut must please you first.
Don’t compress
There are introverted and extroverted people and even in these two large macro-categories there are further subdivisions. Some of us are emotional, some are rational, some are practical, some are very idealistic. In any case, putting your feet on the ground means recognizing yourself for who we really are and respect each other in every aspect. If you don’t feel like talking, don’t do it; if you don’t want to always be super social, stay between you and you. Sometimes it takes a little bit of strength to get out of your comfort zone, but be careful not to force yourself too much in one direction or another.
The wounds and the cuddles
To be able to love and pamper yourself you must also look at your own wounds, the emotional ones. Sometimes there we self-boycott psychological well-being, successes and successes due to wounds such as those of abandonment or due to events within the family. To enhance oneself it is necessary know your weaknesses and learn to fortify them slowly. To take care of yourself, you must proceed with caution when remembering certain injuries or when they are touched.
The cuddle also lies in listening to oneself difficult times and in picking up on your own, showing that vulnerable is also good, fragile is also good. To love oneself corresponds to a form of maintenance, to maintain oneself, holding hands, without judging each other or feel less. From what once gave us so much pain, something different is often born that has a specific name: love.
Start step by step, from the little things, start with cook for yourself something you like, do it calmly, at your own pace and time, with the colors you like. This type of action approaches nourishment, pampering as something tasty in every sense. Take a nice bath or a refreshing shower. Massage the body. Speak words full of warmth. Look in the mirror, look deeply into your eyes and smile. The pampering of a smile, receive it and give it, cure a lot and in a short time.
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